I am always amazed with the energy some talkative people carry around. You just have to give them a hint (sometimes not even that) and they are well on their way to a marathon journey with you!
My father is one of them – he was a Professor of Chemistry before he retired and he talks too much. Ask him one question and he gives answers to many more. Maybe his profession led him to talk more, or it could be genetic as my grandmother used to talk a lot too. It’s not that one won’t enjoy his company, on the contrary he is funny many a times; but it’s just that when one is busy, it gets too much; and at times, it does get boring.
I tried finding reasons as to why some people are so talkative – it seems, more often than not, they are Extroverts, Self-Confident, but might come across as Insensitive and, at times, Arrogant too.
If one is an Extrovert, he is bound to strike a conversation with others. It is easy for such people to get along with others; maybe they grew up in a crowded environment and they find it difficult to be alone. So when they get a chance to get social, they burst all out. Remember the instance where the person next to you in a bus, train or an airplane started off a talk with you? …and it seemed he would follow you all the way to your home 🙂
Self-confidence rides high in such people and they hardly think about what others think of them because they have too much of a self-esteem. Some of them would not take ‘no’ for an answer and could actually hit you if you go against their views. Sometimes, their aggressive behavior over many others has shaped their personality.
Few of them might come across as Insensitive too as they hardly pay attention to others’ feelings. In such instances they might be perceived as Arrogant also. Normally, if a person talks too much, it means he is too fascinated within himself and takes pride in what he is.
Sometimes, it is all just relative. I might come across as talkative to you, if you don’t even like opening up your lips…or if it is the other way, i could come out as an introvert. Either way, in order to have a healthy discussion, it is best to reflect on oneself and see if we are having a two-way conversation.
P.S. The point is equally applicable in case of women, may be more so 😛