Many of us get angry at people when we don’t hear what we want to hear. It is a very common reaction! This response of ours has built over the years, maybe because of the way we were brought up or just something that we adapted from our environment. But then, we would agree this reaction doesn’t do any good to us; rather, we end up doing terrible to ourselves and those around, even taking an extreme step in some cases. And, most of the times, it cannot change the situation also that led to the reaction in the first place. So why not behave in a way which doesn’t do any harm (mentally or physically) to us or those around? What if we train ourselves to be happy irrespective or at least don’t become red-faced?
I have experimented a lot with my emotions and have been successful at reaching a stage wherein I give it a damn! It is not that I am not taking it seriously, but I am showing least of reactions. Consider, for example, a situation in which I was not extended an Offer Letter for a high profile job because of a last minute policy change by HR of a Bank. I cleared all the rounds of interviews and would have joined as a VP…at my level of experience, it is not common. I talked to the respective contacts multiple times but nothing could be done in the end, since they didn’t want to do an exception for just me. I did feel pretty bad because it would have been a huge jump in my career. But my frustration and anything I could have said would have not altered the situation. So, I accepted my fate and moved on.
There are times when we get angry with our family members. The key to avoid conflicts in such situations is to stop talking immediately and give the conversation a bit of break. Some people take deep breaths also, which helps a lot. Maybe go out and do some shopping (my wife loves to follow this) or just be with nature (as I like to do). In fact, I like to stop the conversation, go out on walks and do others things I love. Sometimes, when you get back together, you will feel the situation is not even worth talking about. At least you have not spoiled your day! If you indeed have to resolve the issue, try dealing with it peacefully.
Another important aspect is to not over-think about anything. We all have limited time in this world, and will not take away anything whatsoever, so why bother? Just calm down and move on…there is always another day. For me, that opportunity could come another day…it might not look that lucrative then, but I cannot change the past. Though I can feel happy that I did pretty well!